Love and Suffering

by Bevin van Liempt

“Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:8

God truly is love.

The first and foremost love that all loves are simply an image of–for we were made in the image of God.

While she was helping with the “about” section of our blog, my wife wrote something that I really enjoyed.  She said that we came together based on our mutual love of God – our mutual love of love.  And this really is the truth of it.  Because we both loved God, we were put together by Him.

Yet when we met, she was an atheist, and I an empty believer. I knew all the words, and I knew where I was headed, but I didn’t have them in my heart. How then can it be said that we both loved God? 

The answer to this question is tough, but incredibly valuable.

In today’s world, we’ve experienced, especially amongst young people, a great cynicism–one which masquerades as realism or rationalism. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve run across people who deny that love even exists.  There’s a lot of ways that this can happen.  In this post, I’ll focus on one way in particular, however; this is in how we can fall into the trap of materialism – which I believe to be synonymous with faithlessness.

This materialism says that the only things that are real are those things which are physical.  Those things which we can touch and interact with in a material way.  In this world, what we perceive as love is nothing more than a bunch of chemicals firing off in our heads, changing our perception in a way not so dissimilar to how drugs affect us.  “It’s a distorted sense of reality, nothing more,” the unbeliever says, in so many words.

This unbeliever might seek after love nevertheless, in the same way that he seeks after the pleasure of food, or of sex, or any other such thing.  In effect, he’s reduced himself to a rat in a maze, looking for the cheese.  Yet his heart rallies against him, for what his mind is willing to accept, his soul knows cannot be true.  He knows that there is something deeper to be found out there – that life isn’t just chasing after the next high.  No matter how vast his fear of appearing irrational or foolish, there’s a deep and pervasive sense of emptiness dwelling inside of him.

He cannot help but acknowledge it as good when he feels it, for so great is this original good that only the hardest of hearts can reject it.  And he might even say that he is perfectly content with what he has – which I don’t think is super wrong of him.  It’s only natural that someone who has not seen what could be (and indeed, what was) is happy with what exists.  This sort of conception of practicality trumping idealism and defeating it says that only a dreamer could ever hope for a perfect love.

Yet for a Christian, being anything but an idealist seems a bit foolish.  As behind us, before all things, we have the Divine Logos.  The truth that begets all other truths.  The ideal.  Idealism isn’t some far-off goal that is unreachable and only theoretical – something to be made – but rather something that comes before us.  The very thing from which we come.

Perfect love isn’t impossible, but rather it’s what we came from.

Why has he rejected the love that his soul so badly desires?  Because he does not love the law of God – put differently – because he has not given himself up to sacrifice, but rather seeks for himself.  Put more explicitly: Love for God is a theological virtue, and cannot ever lead us to anything but good, for so faithful is the object of that love that when He is approached in faith, He never lets us down.  This is why it is the greatest commandment.

But love for people is differentPeople are fallible. This means that the ways you express your love may be fallible. The object of your love, or indeed often the subject of that love, is fallible.  Thus, love entails taking a great risk.  Exposing yourself to harm.  You cannot love at a distance, but only up close and personal.  And therefore, you are vulnerable.  And an unfortunate fact that results is that you will sometimes get hurt when you do this.  The more you love, and the more you seek to close that connection, the more you will get hurt when it goes wrong.

Is it any wonder then, that the unbeliever – the lukewarm heart – who does not seek the cross of Christ recoils from that pain?  “Love is supposed to make me happy!  Not make me sad!  What a great joke this is!”

How many of us have suffered great wounds as a result of our love?  Popular music is a testament to this.  And yet the modern attitude’s answer to this is to flee from the love that caused us pain.  How cowardly!

“I will never love, because I keep on getting hurt when I do!”

Who loved you more than anyone else?  How did He show that love?  What greater love is there than suffering for those whom you love – for the sake of the good of that love?  Love was scourged for your sake.  Love was spat upon and mocked for your sake.  Love was crucified for your sake.  And Love rose victorious from the dead for your sake.

True love embraces the pain that comes from abuses of that love.  It carries them for the person!  Love hears the pain of abuse as a call from God – a cross that must be died upon, in union with Christ, so that it can rise again victorious!

Love is not something that just happens to you.  It’s something that you choose – in the will.  Christ Himself despaired greatly as He was approaching the greatest act of love ever done.  He sweat blood and wept.  But in the end, He said, “Not my will, but thine be done.”

This is the essence of love.  And until we are willing to suffer, we can never know the joy that was intended for us in victory.

But these words will mean nothing to the unbeliever – a source of great suffering for me.  Open your hearts and hear!

And pray for me to the Lord our God.

Where charity and love are, God is there.

Christ’s love has gathered us into one.
Let us rejoice and be pleased in Him.
Let us fear, and let us love the living God.
And may we love each other with a sincere heart.

Where charity and love are, God is there.

As we are gathered into one body,
Beware, lest we be divided in mind.
Let evil impulses stop, let controversy cease,
And may Christ our God be in our midst.

Where charity and love are, God is there.

And may we with the saints also,
See Thy face in glory, O Christ our God:
The joy that is immense and good,
Unto the ages through infinite ages.

Amen.

Suffering for the Family – Pope St. John Paul II and Us

Let me just give you a quote from one of Pope St. John Paul II’s 1994 Angelus addresses.  This was the year of the family, and the Pope had just had to be hospitalized for a broken hip:

[Speaking of Himself:] The Pope had to wind up in the Gemelli Clinic, he had to be absent from this window for four weeks, four Sundays, he had to suffer: as he had to suffer thirteen years ago, so too again also this year.

I meditated, I thought about all this over again during my hospital stay. And once again I found at my side the great figure of Cardinal Wyszynski, Primate of Poland (whose 13th anniversary of death was yesterday). At the beginning of my Pontificate he said to me: “If the Lord has called you, you must lead the Church into the third millennium.” He himself had led the Church in Poland into its second Christian millennium

This is what Cardinal Wyszynski said to me. And I understood that I have to lead the Church of Christ in this Third Millenium with prayer, with various initiatives, but I saw that that is not enough: it was necessary to lead her with suffering, with the assassination attempt thirteen years ago and with this new sacrifice. Why now, why in this year, why in this Year of the Family? Precisely because the family is threatened, the family is under attack. The Pope has to be attacked, the Pope has to suffer, so that every family and the world may see that there is a Gospel that is, I would say, higher: the Gospel of suffering, by which the future is prepared , the third millennium of families, of every family and of all families.

The family is the central unit of society, and by far the vocation to which most of us are called.  We must therefore prepare ourselves – that we may not be found without oil in our lamps (St. Matthew 25).  We must, more than ever, devote ourselves to maintaining a true marital love, based on the help of God.  Not one of convenience, or of emotion, but one of the will – one that is strong enough to survive all challenges.  We must examine ourselves closer than ever to make sure we are following the example set by Christ of Love – that we are willing to sacrifice ourselves for one another.  We must always say in our hearts, “Not my will, but thine be done.

However, to this day, the family is still under attack, and our enemies have not relented – they’re succeeding more than ever before.  With homosexual unions becoming normalized and legal all across the western world, abortion taking more lives than ever before, divorce and remarriage rampant, fatherless and motherless children, willing adultery, pornography – no place stands out as much as the family as under attack from the enemies of Christendom.

This is especially true in Canada, as we are seeing the introduction of profane and age-inappropriate new sex-ed program in Ontario, which is to be hoisted upon Catholic Schools, teaching primary school age kids, among many things, that they can pick their gender on a whim.  I urge you to check out the link to see just how bad it’s getting.

One of the greatest ways we can help is to follow the example of our Lord and bear good fruit, that others will know us.  To be the light that is not hidden under a bushel, but rather shining for all men to see – not in ostentation, or for self-glory, but for the greater glory of the Lord.  We need to make a concerted effort to cultivate the good of the family in ourselves, so that others might see and seek the joy that we possess.  Make time to do things as a unit, and find ways to express your love for your family.

Moreover, we must all prepare to suffer for the sake of this cause, as did our Sainted Pope.  To offer these sufferings endured in our everyday lives – particularly those at the hand of our spouse, and also the enemies of the family – to the Lord, for the intention of strengthening and restoring the family to its rightful place in society.

We must prepare to be mocked and hated. We must prepare to be called evil, backwards, and archaic.  As we slip further and further away from the good which our society professed to be true not so long ago, we must be prepared for great tribulation of the soul.  And we must direct ourselves to embrace that suffering, for the sake of those who seek to destroy us and what we believe – for this suffering will be a source of great merit for us, and, God willing, might just call a few of them back.

In your Charity, stop and say a quick prayer to the Holy Family of Nazareth for their intervention in this ongoing problem – one that can never be far from our minds, and that they may cultivate a sincere love in all those who are married for their spouses – that through this love we may prevent and heal all evil.

Credit to Fr. John Zuhlsdorf for posting this Angelus on his fantastic blog.

Thoughts on Original Sin – Is it really as unfair as we think?

by Bevin van Liempt

Since the very beginning, the topic of Original Sin has been a stumbling block to faith for many people.

We feel compelled to ask, “How can it be that our just God–a God of divine mercy–is punishing a newborn for the crimes of his father?” Would it not be terribly unfair if our own court systems passed on the punishments of any of our crimes to our children? Indeed, this does not instinctively speak to the idea of justice in our hearts. As such, even the faithful may find the question a reasonable one.

Yet it is not without any answer. And it all starts with love–as so many things do.

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The marrital union is a shadow of our relationship with God.

 

To understand why Original Sin is passed down, we can look to marrital union. It is apparent that it is good for a man and wife to give themselves wholly to one another, withholding nothing and becoming one flesh. God too shares all aspects of His goodness (Himself for God is goodness) with us. In this case, he shares something in particular that we often think of as belonging to Him and Him alone: Creation.

Man, despite his flawed nature and imperfection, is allowed to participate in God’s creative work through marriage and creation. ( And we should consider this an important word–for man is meant to procreate, not simply reproduce as an animal.) In the same way we share in His love, faith, hope, etc, we can contribute as partners to His creative work by following His commandment to be fruitful and multiply.

This is fundamentally good. Despite our imperfection, God does not deny us the partnership in procreation. He does not say, “You are flawed and going to mess things up, so I shall do it entirely myself.” One only need use that methodology in life to see why it’s bad. Try that approach on your wife if you don’t believe me.  It’s poison to unity, which is a central concept in Christianity. And God cannot do/be bad. Instead, God says, “I will work with you, using your flawed means, and glorifying the result – just as I condescended to your mortal form, through Mary, to save you from Sin.” And this is important.

But, to quote Pope Francis, “God is not a magician”.

 
He is logos as well, which means that reason naturally applies. So when we participate with God in creation, providing the corporal (body) while he provides the spiritual (soul), we necessarily contribute flaws. Something perfect cannot ever come from what is imperfect.

“So why doesn’t God just make fresh humans without original sin?”
Yes, if God created each man anew, without human involvement, Original Sin would not be a thing.  And we can see from the creation of Adam that He certainly has no trouble making such a human.  So what would happen if He did? In retrospect, the answer seems obvious.

Firstly, such a “new Adam” (not THE New Adam, who is Our Lord, Jesus) would not be glorified like the Saints are.  He would be merely a human free from Original Sin, and therefore capable of choosing between good and evil. This is not the same as saints, however, who have been set in their goodness by the unmediated vision of God. At that point, they do not choose between good or evil–they will always choose good.

(This of course leads to the question of why God wouldn’t create new Saints. The Venerable Archbishop Fulton Sheen once said that it seems to violate a principle that we think is true: God wishes that all things which are to be Glorified have first had an opportunity to participate in and freely choose that Glory. )

Secondly, it also seems that all things which are good seem to be called to work in redeeming man from sin. Consider this: The saints pray to God on our behalf. The Angels defend us. And God Himself is Incarnate for our salvation.  I believe this would apply to the “New Adams” as well.  They would be called by goodness itself to work with God to redeem us.

With free will, they can make the choice to heed the call or to ignore it. If they were to ignore that call, they would orientate themselves away from God, thereby committing their original sin, and making the whole point of creating New Adams moot. But if they were to heed the call, they would necessarily have to interact with us and share their being with us through love and unity. Yet they are not glorified (saints) themselves, so they would fall victim to our sin, and again, the ends would be the same.

It may seem counter-intuitive to us, but what original sin actually is–is the mark of a loving God who lets His flawed servants participate with Him in His Work.  It’s the statement that we are not irredeemable, that we are not worthless because we are flawed, but rather, we are the special creation of God. It is the statement that He will always be our partner in all things, and never abandon us.

We inherit our faults because He can forgive them, and look past them. Because Goodness gives to those who don’t deserve it, even the pure and perfect gifts of God’s Mercy, God’s Love, and God’s Creation.

Deo Gratias.

The “Foolishness” of Faith – Part 1

Cursory Meditations on Faith
by Bevin van Liempt

The Epistle from today’s mass struck a chord with me. It has been a message that has been buzzing around in my life for some time.  A core concept from the reading is one that takes a central role in Pope Benedict’s book, Introduction to Christianity, which I have been reading for the last little bit. (Although I had also been looking into it independently because a casual acquaintance of mine had made an off-hand remark about faith: that it was essentially a get-out-of-rationality free card that I would be able to bust out at any given moment and evade the natural conclusions.)

Here is the reading, presented first without commentary:

The message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. For it is written:

“I will destroy the wisdom of the wise,
    and the learning of the learned I will set aside.”

Where is the wise one? Where is the scribe? Where is the debater of this age? Has not God made the wisdom of the world foolish? For since in the wisdom of God the world did not come to know God through wisdom, it was the will of God through the foolishness of the proclamation to save those who have faith.  For Jews demand signs and Greeks look for wisdom, but we proclaim Christ crucified, a stumbling block to Jews and foolishness to Gentiles, but to those who are called, Jews and Greeks alike, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God. For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength.

1 Corinthians 1 : 18 – 25

The truth of the matter is, I really do seem quite foolish to most other people I’ve met.  And I can hardly blame them for thinking so. We say some pretty daring things sometimes, and as a matter of fact, we, as Catholics, absolutely must run contrary to popular norms. We tell people that it is not proper to do as they wish with their bodies. We tell people they must have children they don’t feel ready or equipped to have. We tell people that there is no glory in wealth, temporal power, or fame.  Nearly all things that this world holds dear, and all things that it has decided are ends to themselves.  We claim that the Way is narrow, and few are those who find it.

Where the world has said, “Put yourself first.  Don’t let anyone impose on you.  Set your boundaries and defend them fiercely.  No one should have any influence on you but you.” we’ve taken another approach.  “Put others first, always – Sacrifice yourself.  Give freely, even when you don’t want to, and when someone takes advantage of you, give even more to that person.  Humble yourself, and listen to those authorities which have been justly established over you.  Deny yourself the pleasures that you desire, and replace them with suffering for the sake of others.”

Pretty foolish, right?  How can I say with a straight face that my advice to a woman who is trapped in an unhappy, loveless marriage is to not only “stick it out,” but choose to give even more of herself to the man who does not value her.  To forgive everything, even if it is likely to be repeated, and to do good to him who works evil against her.  In what sense are the poor blessed?  Those who suffer are close to God?  What does that even mean?  The list goes on and on.

How can Faith dare?

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A major point of contention, and one that I say is not well understood – The Sacrifice of Isaac

How can we make these claims?  The answer, presented plainly and without apology: Faith.  Pure and simple.  But now I’ve really done it, haven’t I?  I’ve revealed that I have no rational basis for what I believe and that it’s just blind and stupid and not based on anything that is demonstrable.  I just proved that it ultimately really is foolishness and nothing more, right?

I don’t really think so.  And the reason is because no one really understand what we mean when we say Faith. Even sometimes those of us who say it. It’s an unfortunate truth that a great many people have misrepresented Faith as something blind: a sort of lazy certainty that suffices to replace understanding.  Others have effectively written Faith out of existence altogether, and reject the whole tool outright.  So let’s start with a clear exposition of what we actually believe Faith to be:

First, let us consider Science, which I’m going to use here in its Thomistic sense.  When we say Science, we’re talking about those things which are apprehensible by the senses.  Those things which we can touch with our hands and see with our eyes.  It’s those things that we have demonstrable proof of.  For example, in my room right now, I have Science of the chair next to me, the colour of my wife’s hair, and the number of empty coke cans lying around (not mine, I swear. Edit: This is Rei, how dare you insert my coke cans into your blog posts?)  I also have Science of the things that I saw earlier, such as the fact that the car was in garage an hour ago, and likely still is, and so forth.

When a reasonable person believes in something he has Science of, he’s simply passively giving assent of the will to what resides in the intellect.  That is to say, those things which we believe as a matter of science are those things which we have seen, and do not actively deny, and which do not contradict with other things we have Science of.  It is a very passive process, in a sense, apprehending in this way.  We see a chair and record it as something we have seen.  While this method can be distorted sometimes, it’s generally only in cases of extreme bias or delusion that we run into trouble with our senses.

Next, on our way to Faith, let’s consider the opposite extreme of Science: Opinion.  These are matters on which we have no useful information whatever.  We have not apprehended anything at all.  A simple way to elucidate Opinion is to ask a crazy question like, “What do you think the weather is going to be like on April 4, 2065?”  If the person should choose to answer, it’s clear that this is not based on any kind of truly relevant apprehensible reality at all.  It would be, at the very most, a slightly educated guess.

This is where Faith comes in.  It was St. Thomas Aquinas who said that Faith was a mean between Science and Opinion.  Here’s the definition as we use it: Faith is when someone else has Science of something, and relays it to you, and you choose to believe it.  This is Faith in its general sense.  It becomes the Theological Virtue of Faith when it has God as its subject, and it is from here that we make our claims.

That is to say, our beliefs are done through choice, not in the absence of evidence, but in evidence that is not apprehended directly. That is: We believe though we have not seen – we believe even though we don’t know for sure.  They’re also subject to reason, as reason is a God-given gift, and required to be used by all men as part of our being made in the image of God.

An Example of Faith

I got a phone call from a person who’s had a pretty bum deal so far in life.  He’s struggled with issues of drugs, violence, injury, poverty, etc.; A lot of people would think by looking at him that he’s kind of shady.  He told me a story about how he’s low on cash to pay for his and his dog’s food, and needed to borrow some to pay for it.  My wife and I had already lent him $80 a couple of days earlier to help get his dog out of the pound. It was pretty possible that I was being taken advantage of, and I was very well ware that it was possible.  Some people around me even made comments to that effect when I off-handedly (and reluctantly) said what I was up to.

Now, the act of faith in this instance is to trust in what I have not seen.  I have not seen that he is reliable, or willing to pay me back.  I have not seen that this money will be going to food.  I have not seen much at all.  All I know, really, is that I was asked for help.  But I made a concerted effort to trust him, and so my wife and I set out to help him.  As of yet, we haven’t been paid back.  But I choose to believe in his claims because that’s the best for everyone – and entirely moreover it’s the only good thing to do.

I firmly believe that when people are exposed to this sort of Charity, it has an effect on them. I certainly have seen the effects of the absence of Charity – cynicalization, hardening, distraction-seeking in a harmful way.  There’s a lot of them.  And I think for someone like him, who has shown some degree of commitment to making a change – or at least the hope that change is possible – it’s a morally better situation to have the love given, even if undeserved. Especially even if I can get hurt as a result.

This is the essence of it – I could be entirely wrong.  I could have misjudged everything, or be choosing to believe in a reality that is different from the objective reality.  I could lose the money that we lent, or worse yet, I could be enabling a slip back into drugs.  These are things that are all possible, and that is the risk of doing good.  But without this faith, he would find himself in isolation.  I know for a near fact this man has few contacts in town, and very few people to call on for help.

My choice, therefore, was two-fold:

1) Accept the man’s claims about reality, and help, knowing that they could be wrong, or
2) trust in what I have seen, and acquiesce to the very legitimate worry that I had been taken advantage of.  Something that could well be the case.
Now if it should come to pass that the second is true, all the better, since what I did was good in and of itself, and good is done through sacrifice, but it would also preclude me from making a connection with him, and this is the hidden evil therein – one need only take an honest look at oneself to realize that we’ve all had cases where we have undeservedly gained trust from others, to our spiritual benefit (a term that I’ll leave undefined for now.)

Now I say this with the full knowledge that this is an imperfect example, and we cannot truly separate out our apprehensions of reality based on science from those we have based on faith.  It’s just to illustrate the concept, and the ways that it can be good, as well as one of the ways that it can go wrong.  Someone else made a claim of reality, the truth of which is known only to them and God, and I made a conscious choice to believe it.

In the same way, when my wife says “I love you,” I take it on faith.  I can look at her actions to see if they’re consistent with what she says, but at the end of the day, I would never be able to determine if she was just convincingly faking.  That risk is always there.  And indeed, when people want to believe that other people are taking advantage of them, they often do, because the evidence is sufficiently ambiguous to give them the mental freedom to formulate that narrative.  Rather than let my beliefs be ungoverned and subject to only what I see with my eyes, or on the other side of the spectrum, let my emotions dictate them in an ungoverned way, I seize control, and choose to believe those things which I deem to be not just right, but good.  I foolishly expose myself to hurt, which often becomes realized, and thereby effect the best end.

Not Faith, but Science?

To bring this conversation back to where it started, the reason the Scripture hit me so hard is because I spend a lot of my time debating and discussing religion with non-believers.  And one thing that comes up over and over and over again is, “Prove it to me.

For me, this is the error of both – they don’t understand the nature of the claims being made.  Let me say this: if God merely wanted us to believe and that’s all he sought from us, He would have not done things the way that He did.  He would have made the claims that we make immediately apparent to the senses.  He would have parted the Heavens and shown Himself for all to see, saying, “I am the LORD your God!”

The truth is something subtler.  Something more nuanced.  Something more meaningful.  Let’s start here: It seems to be the case that nothing can be Glorified that did not choose to participate in its glorification.  That is to say, if we are to be made perfect, God seems to require that we choose it, and does not wish to force it upon us as a matter of divine will.  And in order for a choice to be meaningful, we have to have the opportunity to choose wrongly.

This is what the claims of our Faith are – a valid, consistent way of looking at things, based, ultimately, on the divine Word of God. It must be taken as that.  It’s not something derived from looking at the world around us, but rather, as a claim made.  The angels in Heaven have seen, and God has seen, and the Saints have seen, but as yet, we only have an account.  And ultimately, it has to stay that way.

What this means for us is that no one can ever give you faith, as the Greeks who desire wisdom might want.  No one can prove it for you, as no matter how adeptly it is expressed, you’ll always have enough intellectual room to work around it.  If you do not wish to hear, you will not hear – which is exactly why Our Lord so often started His teachings with, “He who has ears to hear, let him hear!”

The reason this is the case is simple, I think: God demands participation in your salvation. He is not contented by you lazily letting your intellect govern your will, any more than we are contented with people lazily letting their emotions govern their will.

From the outside, these things can never be grasped in their entirety, only from within do they begin to make sense.  And the impetus to make one search can never be a proof.  It must come from the heart.  A journey.  An encounter.  Never an argument.

This is pretty hard to understand sometimes, and entirely foreign in a secular world, so I’ll do my best to flesh it out some more in part two.

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